The Little Girl Who Follows Me

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The Little Girl Who Follows Me

I have a little girl who follows me around sometimes and does her tongue-clamped-in-her-teeth best at the kinds of things I like to do. I guess she thinks these things are fun to some extent, but mainly I think it’s because she wants to spend time with me.

Sometimes we go fishing, in an easygoing, laid-back kind of way. Not all-day, hardcore fishing to fill a freezer, just kid fishing on a pier or pond bank, baiting with worms or crickets, watching a cork dance then sink from view for a while, then picking flowers or playing in the dirt. She enjoys being there with me, and I enjoy remembering why we’re there at all. Just sharing the time together is what it’s about. Really, it’s what everything’s about, but usually we distract ourselves so we don’t see it.

We play golf sometimes, and she stands in as my designated putter and driving critic. There’s a nine-hole course not far from where we live and, on warm Sunday afternoons, we’ll go play there, because the dress code is as casual as my game. I handle the work from tee to green, then she takes over with a pink-gripped flat stick sized for her age, which is 7.

I’ve made sure not to demonstrate my four-letter vocabulary or my wedge-throwing technique yet, and I’ve limited our pairings to others who’ll exercise the same control. We haven’t slowed the pace of play or stepped in anyone’s line because I’m teaching her that etiquette is more important than the outcome.

After the first round that found her in my company, a round that was my first of that particular season and one I felt very good about since it only included one or two truly bad shots, she reported to her mother “… on one hole, Daddy hit it w-a-a-a-a-y up into somebody’s yard, and he didn’t go get it.”

Honestly, they had a big dog, and I had plenty more Titleists. The shot I would have forgotten long ago but for the comment. The big, sweeping hook was neither the first nor the last for me, but the memory of her remark is now a favorite.

Sometimes we’ll ride around on an ATV or just go walk in the woods, look at the flowers and the trees, talk about whatever is on her mind, which is usually a lot. “Why did God make the grass green? How long do we stay in Heaven? Where do cats go when they die?”

I do my best to answer, hoping deeply it’s the effort to communicate that counts, because the information seldom qualifies as a definitive answer or anything close to it. I believe she uses that space and time to become herself, hopefully getting some perspective on the Daddy who nags her to hang up her towel and turn off the light when she leaves a room. The perspective I gain reminds me not to nag so much, not to be so critical, but to be grateful and appreciative while I can, because she’s growing up, a little more every day.

Someday she’ll have her own interests that take her elsewhere. These days, though, I have a little girl who follows me around sometimes, mainly because she wants to spend time with me.

Kevin Tate is V.P. of Media Productions for Mossy Oak in West Point.

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  1. 23rd February 2013 | Johnnie Hudman says: Reply
    I cherish every minute I have spent with my baby girl. She is 41 years old now and I still cherish each moment spent with her.....and her baby girl and boy. Grandkids are great JLH

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